A Quick Survivor’s Guide to a Merry Christmas
Festivities are in the air, and Christmas is right around the corner. While it is a merry affair for many, it can be an uncomfortable time for survivors of abuse. Sadly, this time of year brings about the possibility of seeing abusers, returning to the setting of the abuse, or reminders of family estrangement.
With over 80% abuse taking place in the family setting, it can be an especially challenging time for survivors dealing with family dynamics. Acknowledging the challenges that come with the Christmas break, the vulnerability and potential triggers, can be a good starting point in fostering a sense of comfort and empowerment.
Here are some tips that can help you reclaim your agency during the festive season, helping you navigate through the period.
Communicate your needs
Express your needs and concerns to trusted family members or friends. Communicate what you’re comfortable with and what might be triggering for you during gatherings or celebrations. This open dialogue can help them better support you and respect your boundaries.
Plan mindfully
Plan your holiday activities mindfully. Consider which events, people, or traditions, bring you genuine joy and which ones might cause distress. You can also limit exposure to these triggers by setting time limits, excusing yourself when necessary, or choosing alternative activities that bring you comfort. Opt for those that bring you a sense of relief and make you look forward to the celebration.
It’s ok to say no
Whether it’s declining certain invitations or limiting time with specific individuals, don’t be afraid to prioritise your comfort. Communicate your boundaries clearly and firmly with loved ones, emphasising on the importance of your well-being.
Practice self-care
Prioritise self-care throughout the season. Engage in activities that promote relaxation and well-being, whether it’s journalling, meditation, exercise, movie marathons, or creative pursuits – do what makes you happy. You can also go through our self-care guide for some small self-care tips that you can practice at home on a daily basis, so as to not feel so overwhelmed by trying to do too much at once. It has a range of ideas to choose from, from self-care tips for the mind, body and soul. Remember to not neglect your physical and emotional needs amidst the busyness of the holidays.
Practice grounding techniques
Keep grounding techniques handy. We have a range of physical, metal, and soothing grounding techniques for you to benefit from in our free self-help guide. Browse through some of them to find the ones that work best for you in helping evoke positive emotions. These techniques go a long way in helping anchor you in the present moment during times of distress.
Utilise professional support
During the coming weeks, many services are closed but you can still contact the mental health central access point on 0808 800 3302 or get in touch with the Samaritans on 116 123 during times of need.
Remember, help is always available.
Allow yourself grace
Lastly, be gentle with yourself. Healing from trauma is a journey, and it’s okay to have moments of struggle. Give yourself permission to prioritise your well-being and adjust plans as needed to ensure you feel well and supported.
Remember, the goal is to create a space where you feel empowered and in control. Implementing these practical tips can help you navigate the holidays with greater ease and sensitivity to your own needs as a survivor.
This holiday season, let the spirit of self-compassion, empowerment, and healing guide your path.
Hope you have a truly merry Christmas, and a happy new year!
